craveytrain

That’s right, guys hate it, girls can’t wait for it. I haven’t made any news flashes here. However, I think I have found a decent solution.

You see, guys hate this day cause we feel it’s too commercialized. We don’t want to be that schmuck in the restaurant trying to be romantic with all the other schmucks in the restaurant trying to be romantic. Sorta takes the meaning out if it in my mind if you have to have a holiday for it.

There is that compounded with the fact that most men feel we have the burden of the holiday. It is generally accepted that men are supposed to do something romantic for their significant other. The pressure doesn’t ever seem to fall on the other member of the hetero relationship (fraid I can’t weigh in on the dynamics of valentine’s day in a homo relationship). This has just been my experience thus far. Maybe I’m way off, but at 25, I’ve had about 10 valentine’s days and let me tell you, they get old fast when you have that mindset of it.

Then there are more personal reasons we don’t like it. Some of us feel that we do rather romantic things throughout the year (and have since been corroborated by their S.O.) and doing it all cause someone said you have to do that stuff on this day just seems so commercially abysmal. Steals the essence out of the act.

Then there is the compounding effect. The fact that each year guys have to out do the year before. This gets tiresome, tedious, expensive and a general pain in the ass.

Not to mention those of us that personal aversions to that day (such as frequent break ups, etc…).

Now, having said that, I have made a breakthrough I think. It took a friend of mine to point out that you don’t have to celebrate the day, just use it as an excuse to get together and do whatever. So that’s what I am doing. I am arranging a dinner with the S.O. and the best friend couple (her best friend and my best friend are married). I am going for a nice extravagant dinner with wine, filet mignon, appetizer and cheesecake. All homemade. Of course i have the number to Mangia on speed dial just in case.

So the GF and I have come to the conclusion that while we are not ignoring the day completely, we are not celebrating it as valentine’s day. We are getting together, doing a nice romantic thing but not exchanging gifts and not doing the classic V-day stuff (except for the hot lava, I’m sure there will be plenty of that). I feel we have found a nice compromise that I can handle and still makes her feel special and tries to show her how I feel for her.

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